The Norman Transcript


May 17, 2013

The reality of Mother’s Day

NORMAN — The path to the celebration of Mother’s Day is fraught with countless thorns, discomforts and lots of joy.

There is the pregnancy and the birth, neither of which is a pleasant experience in itself. If it were easy and pleasant, why aren’t the men lining up to experience such fun as well? Sorry, guys, biological impossibility is not an acceptable excuse.

Following the fun birthing, come the baby, toddler and teenage years, also known as quicksand heaven. If a mother is going to make a mistake, the vigilant child and teen will catch it and remember forever, ready to hit playback at a moment’s notice.

Some mothers make one feel warm and loved, while others are human beings moving through life with a cloud over, around and inside them.

As is the case with such “cloud covered” mothers, there are people who rarely recall the good works wrought by their mothers and prefer to clutch to their bosoms every perceived wrong and every mistake their mothers have ever committed. Could it be that the “cloud gene,” which they obviously inherited, skipped the parent and is inherited from a grandparent?

A friend comes from a home where their core family plus the grandmother lived together in cloudy disharmony. She often talks about her mother and grandmother and their permanently dour dispositions, along with examples thereof.

The minute her father arrived home from work, the mother would start her litany of complaints and bad news, never allowing the poor man a moment’s peace. One has to wonder how my friend managed to duck and avoid the moment when the “cloud gene” tried to leap from the older women and latch onto her. She is nothing like those women.

Along similar lines of behavior are women who may punish their misbehaving children, but when their husbands come home, they perform the “see how I suffer” dump and the children may receive punishment from the father as well. Are the children receiving just punishment or the brunt of the father’s frustration with his wife?

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