NORMAN — Some things in life are so important that they belong in the priceless category.
These moments and feelings are not one-time events. They are, or should be, an ongoing loop entwined into the very fabric of our lives. It is unfortunate and perhaps a sobering commentary on society today that we not only relegate such precious moments and feelings to one or more designated days of the year, but commercialize them ad nauseam.
Valentine’s Day is just one such officially designated day. Heaven only knows what official’s job it is to choose national and/or international gifting days, but this person is quite thorough and ruthless when it comes to pushing “must have” products to keep someone you care about happy. Never mind that happiness comes from within and not from anyone outside yourself.
Consequently, one cannot help but take a jaundiced view of most “special” days that force people to gift “that special someone” with cards, flowers, gifts and dinner. What does stuff have to do with how we feel about another human being, be it lover, mother, father or friend? And why are we herded along like bobble headed sheep by commercials demanding that we hurry and shop before the wrath of an ungifted loved one is visited upon us?
We all know that such days exist for the sole purpose of putting the guilt trip on people to behave in an expected manner and spend copious amounts of money to please those who have been brainwashed to expect something. Such expectations are often nebulous, but somewhere along the way the expectees have been led to believe that expensive must be part of the gift.
Now, mind you, not everyone expects or desires costly gifts. But then again, when was the last time someone turned down an expensive gift.
“Oh darling! You shouldn’t have,” the recipient simpers, fisting the aforementioned “unnecessary” gift in her little hand with dollar signs dancing in her head.
If we love someone, the object of our affection ought to be told of our feelings, often. In fact, every day and several times a day would be terrific. Call it insurance, just in case the first two or three wear off. Love and expressing our love is a gift that keeps on giving for a lifetime.
Why wait for Feb. 14 to surprise them at the door wrapped in plastic wrap? That may be one of those memorable gifts which benefit the recipient and the giver. No! That is not the only reason! Wash your brain out with Clorox and consider the practical aspect of such attire.
The wrapped up person is getting an inexpensive sauna treatment without having to install a sauna in his or her home or paying for a membership to a gym. Saunas are great for your health and your figure. Of course, if one is brave enough to go the plastic wrap route, that person naturally wishes to look attractive. This means he or she worked out for months to achieve that yummy look. Otherwise, the visual effect could well be that of a chimichanga or a super burrito answering the front door — tightly wrapped and lumpy.
If nothing else, such moments are great to tuck away for a time when plastic wraps and miniskirts have passed that inevitable “Do Not Even Think About Doing It” date. Somewhere down the road, it could be a perfect memory. Something to pull out and enjoy when you need a good chuckle or feel the need for a fond smile to wreath your face or wrap around you to warm your heart.
Why tuck our feelings for a loved one away in a corner of our hearts to be pulled out and dusted off on special occasions? Isn’t every day above ground a special occasion? So forget the hype and let your love reach out on a daily basis.
Elizabeth is a freelance writer and author. Her latest novel Sins of the Father is available on amazon.com. Website: www.elizabethcowan.com
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