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January 7, 2014

What you should know about your parents affairs

NORMAN — Dear Savvy Senior, My pastor recently suggested that I get informed on my elderly parents’ financial situation and end-of-life plans so I can be better prepared when something happens to them. What’s the best way to handle this, and what all do I need to find out?

— Apprehensive Daughter

 

Dear Apprehensive,

Most adult children don’t know much about their parents’ financial situation or end-of-life plans, but they need to. Getting up to speed on your elderly parent’s finances, insurance policies, long-term care plans and other information is important because some day you might have to help them handle their financial affairs or care, or execute their estate plan after they die. Without this information, your job becomes much more difficult.

 

Have the talk: If you’re uncomfortable starting up a conversation like this with your parents, see TheConversationProject.org for guidance. It’s also a good idea to get your siblings or other family members involved. This can help you head off possible hard feelings. Plus, with others involved, your parents will know everyone is concerned.

When you meet with your parents, you’ll need to sit down and create several lists of important information, find out where they keep key documents and how they want certain things handled when they die or if they become incapacitated. Here’s a checklist of areas you need to focus on.

Personal information

· Contacts: Make a list of names and phone numbers of close friends, clergy, their doctors, lawyer, accountant, broker, tax preparer, insurance agent, etc.

· Personal documents: Find out where they keep their Social Security card, marriage license, military discharge papers, etc.

· Secured places: Make a list of places they keep under lock and key or protected by password, such as online accounts, safe deposit boxes, safe combination, security alarms, etc.

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