NORMAN — Q: There are several times during the day when I need to tell my children something important. They both have cell phones and are capable of receiving my messages.
Can you please help me understand why the school frowns on parents reaching their children during the school day?
— Beth, Moore
We understand perfectly why you have been asked not to text your kids. They are at school for the main purpose of learning. When their phones vibrate in their pockets, that’s where their focus goes.
You should know your children’s schedules well enough by now to know when they eat lunch. Use that time to communicate with them and let them concentrate on what they need to during class time.
If there is something so important that it can’t wait until the end of day, call the school and ask them to send a message to your child when it is more appropriate.
Please, please don’t ever send your child a text with bad news while they are in class. Can you imagine getting a text while sitting in math that the dog has been hit by a car or an uncle has died? Why would a parent do that to a child? Believe us, it is done more frequently than you can imagine.
If you are texting just to visit and see if they’re having a good day, you need to stop. This is their time away from you to socialize and learn. They don’t need Mom or Dad or even Grandma checking up on them.
Here’s a little side note: If your child is texting you during the school day when they should be listening and participating in class, you need to put a stop to that ASAP. Not only is it disruptive to the class as a whole, but it is inappropriate. There are rules in the workplace concerning personal calls, and this is setting a bad example for future success in the real world.