Alongthe same line, we, mostly females, seem to be fixated on our appearance when it comes to clothes, needing outside reassurance from someone other than the mirror. So she asks the dreaded “How do I look” or “Does this make me look fat?” Whoever the poor schmuck turns out to be, he cannot win because she will only hear a confirmation of her misguided belief that she does not look good. Even if he tells her she is gorgeous and he is proud of her, she will hear “I’m proud of you, but you could lose a few more pounds because I can see skin on those sticks known as bones.”
This discontentment with our looks, weight or lot in life, puts a towering dark cloud over what could otherwise be a good life.
Mother always said “It’s what’s inside that matters and not the fleeting external appearance, so let your inner light shine through.” Yes she was right, but that does not play well with teenagers who may be coping with acne and other teen related problems.
With this negative piece of DNA just waiting to take you down from the happy realm, what can be done? Even if you had a magic wand and could make your fondest wishes come true, within a short span of time that negative fly in the ointment would crawl into view and dim the magical joy.
How about injecting humor into that gloomy mindset?
There is a term used in the military “to pass muster” meaning to pass inspection. Unwilling to put Hubby on the spot just to confirm that my dress is not on backwards and all my buttons are properly buttoned, I put a twist on the “How do I look” question and ask, “Do I pass mustard?” His nod and smiling “You look terrible” is all I need and we are good to go.