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October 10, 2013

Are you channeling your parents?

NORMAN — No matter how much we argue and deny what is staring us in the face, literally sometimes, at some point and to some degree we will become our parents.

It is one of life’s ironies or perhaps payback á la Mother Nature on behalf of parents. Whether your parents fall in the good or I-don’t-want-to-talk-about-them categories, parenting is not easy. The problems normally arise when children morph from adorable babies to good-lord-they-are-teenagers.

As one behavioral therapist states in a radio commercial: “When the child you love becomes unmanageable…” This implies that (i) such unlovable behavior happens frequently and (ii) it can be fixed. You may disagree with one or both of these assertions because not all children become unlovable hellions in their teens, some wait until their twenties and thirties to achieve such perfection.

Regardless, in certain ways we do become our parents, which include acting in exactly the way you swore you never would. Call it conditioning, environmental indoctrination or genetics, the results are the same. Mom or Dad pops out and it is you.

Some parental channeling may include looking like one or both parents. For example, if you line up my siblings and children, you know without a doubt we are related. Of course, some are prettier than others, but that would apply to your siblings and children as well.

Lifestyles are reflected on our faces and bodies.

How often have you heard “the eyes are the mirrors of the soul?” There is a kernel of truth in that. Using one of Hubby’s ranch style euphemisms, “some folks look like they’ve been rode hard and put up wet.”

Men may discover that they have turned into their fathers. On the other hand, women tend to be more specific, complaining about inheriting their mothers’ thighs or height. But the real channeling is in the mindset. Unfortunately, what floats around in the mind has a tendency to leak out past our lips.

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