The Norman Transcript

Features

October 10, 2013

Are you channeling your parents?

NORMAN — No matter how much we argue and deny what is staring us in the face, literally sometimes, at some point and to some degree we will become our parents.

It is one of life’s ironies or perhaps payback á la Mother Nature on behalf of parents. Whether your parents fall in the good or I-don’t-want-to-talk-about-them categories, parenting is not easy. The problems normally arise when children morph from adorable babies to good-lord-they-are-teenagers.

As one behavioral therapist states in a radio commercial: “When the child you love becomes unmanageable…” This implies that (i) such unlovable behavior happens frequently and (ii) it can be fixed. You may disagree with one or both of these assertions because not all children become unlovable hellions in their teens, some wait until their twenties and thirties to achieve such perfection.

Regardless, in certain ways we do become our parents, which include acting in exactly the way you swore you never would. Call it conditioning, environmental indoctrination or genetics, the results are the same. Mom or Dad pops out and it is you.

Some parental channeling may include looking like one or both parents. For example, if you line up my siblings and children, you know without a doubt we are related. Of course, some are prettier than others, but that would apply to your siblings and children as well.

Lifestyles are reflected on our faces and bodies.

How often have you heard “the eyes are the mirrors of the soul?” There is a kernel of truth in that. Using one of Hubby’s ranch style euphemisms, “some folks look like they’ve been rode hard and put up wet.”

Men may discover that they have turned into their fathers. On the other hand, women tend to be more specific, complaining about inheriting their mothers’ thighs or height. But the real channeling is in the mindset. Unfortunately, what floats around in the mind has a tendency to leak out past our lips.

Text Only | Photo Reprints
Features
  • Crafter’s emporium planned Saturday

    Members of the Opal District Crafter’s Emporium, plus other local artists, will have an art show from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Saturday at the Cleveland County Fairgrounds, 615 E. Robinson St. in Norman. It will be hosted concurrently with the ...

    July 31, 2014

  • Williams book signing event set

    Jared Williams, a resident of Moore, will sign copies of his book “Cerebral” from 1 to 3 p.m. Saturday at Hastings, 2300 W. Main St. Norman....

    July 31, 2014

  • Home dedication set Sunday

    Cleveland County Habitat for Humanity will host a dedication of the Ruvalcaba family home from 2 to 4 p.m. Sunday at 618 E. Apache St. Those attending are asked to bring a pantry item to help the family begin life in their new home. ...

    July 31, 2014

  • Two territorial littermate cats are asserting social dominance

    Dear Dr. Fox: When we decided to get a cat 10 years ago, I thought getting a couple of littermates would work well. They got along during the first couple of years, often sleeping together and grooming each other. As they matured, though, ...

    July 31, 2014

  • Board welcomes new member

    In its June meeting, the members of the Mary Abbott Children’s House board of directors elected Barbara Henderson to serve the remaining term of Anne Ederington, who resigned from the board in May due to moving from Norman. Henderson and ...

    July 30, 2014

  • Pancake breakfast set

    The Police Explorer youth organization will host an all-you-can-eat pancake breakfast from 7 to 11 a.m. Saturday at the Norman Masonic Lodge, 1700 N. Porter Ave. All-you-can-eat pancakes, sausage, milk, orange juice and coffee costs $5. ...

    July 30, 2014

  • Center will be more than a building

    Many volunteers who assist veterans and surviving spouses have driven more than an hour to be at the Goldsby Community Center by 7 a.m. each Thursday. The volunteer of the week is from Harrah and has made that drive for the last three ...

    July 30, 2014

  • Senior organizations that appeal to conservatives

    Dear Savvy Senior, Can you recommend any advocacy organizations for seniors other than AARP? I cut up my AARP card a few years back when they supported Obamacare and am now looking for another organization that better represents me....

    July 29, 2014

  • Seniors adjust to different sleep patterns

    According to the National Institutes of Health, older adults need seven to nine hours of sleep each night. However, sleep patterns change with age; this is often evident in the nursing home population. Frequent causes of interrupted sleep ...

    July 29, 2014

  • Ceremony marks opening of community center

    A July 23 ribbon-cutting ceremony marked the addition of another feature to the Chickasaw Nation Carter service campus in Ardmore....

    July 27, 2014