At the very least, he needs to understand that deliberately killing an animal is not by any stretch the equivalent of stepping on a bug by accident.
Q: My 11-year old son, an only child, continues to ask me to “snuggle” with him and scratch his back at bed time. This is a time for us to read aloud, chat about concerns or questions and say prayers. Sometimes, if I’m too busy, he just goes off to bed, and sometimes his dad cuddles instead of me.
An older friend whom I respect said a pre-pubescent boy is too old for this kind of cuddle routine, that it sends the wrong mother/son message.
I always assumed that the day would come when he would not want me to step foot in his room and decided to enjoy it for as long as it lasted, but am I continuing a routine that should come to an end?
A: Not in my estimation. I’m sure your friend is well-meaning, but I thoroughly disagree that this is inappropriate behavior for a mom to engage in with an 11-year-old boy, especially given that he accepts it when you are too busy to cuddle, his dad cuddles with him at times and you sound like a healthy bunch of humans.
The day is rapidly coming when your son will probably no longer want you to cuddle with him. Get it while you can.
Family psychologist John Rosemond answers parent questions at parentguru.com.
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