The Norman Transcript


March 26, 2013

Ben Graves continues to be passionate about life, business



Ben was actively involved, and remains so, in the Norman social and business community. He has hung with the movers and shakers, those that were changing the build environment of Norman while hotly orchestrating its growth and expansion. He had a few partners in the land deals and used these deals to develop architectural projects the office designed and produced. I had the opportunity and privilege to work on many of those projects.

As I have thought about the experience and my relationship to Ben, I looked at this interview as a way of discussing a plethora of impressions and thoughts that perhaps may not be discussed on how my or others life’s ambitions and goals interact with and influence other people. This has led me to consider more in depth how I influence my students as well as past employees who have worked with me. I have grown to appreciate the seriousness and passion with which Ben has taken on life and how it has affected those around him.

Ben has always taken what he does with a strong conviction; he has been criticized for being hard to work for by many people, including myself. What I have begun to understand is that not everyone that worked for him or beside him has taken life’s journey the same way he does; therefore Ben allows little tolerance for a less than passionate approach to life through his eyes. Because of his commitment to not cutting corners in life, I have witnessed clients and business associates that have become long term friends; I am honored to be included in this list.

Now that Ben has conceded his portion of Architects in Partnership to the next generation of movers and shakers, what may have changed in his view of life goals and successes? Nothing he declares when it comes to being immeasurably passionate about what he does when “working the deal.” He is more patient, calmer, more willing to sit and read a good book and play with his dogs or call up one of his sons to meet him for dinner. He is spending more time at the lake house where he, like in everything and everyone else in his life, is working to perfect and change, creating the ideal, transforming and molding to help bring out the best. I can see it. I also can see the passion that has always been there and the honesty that has made clients and potential clients take him at his word and trust that what he does will be the best or pretty close. Yet, now he has developed a more patient approach to achieving the changes he wants to see while enjoying what’s going on around him in the process.

David L. Boeck is associate professor of architecture at the University of Oklahoma College of Architecture.

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