Q: My 5-year-old daughter loves to play with other kids her age, but has not yet asked me to invite any of her school friends over for a play date. According to her teacher, she’s a bit shy but plays well with the other girls in her class. And when the chance presents itself, she plays well with others in the neighborhood or friends from elsewhere. Should I go ahead and arrange play dates or let her make the first move on that?
A: I have two somewhat opposing thoughts about this: First, if she were interested enough in play dates, she would ask you to arrange them. On the other hand, maybe she doesn’t know to ask or is a tad reluctant. Maybe she’s afraid she’ll be turned down. Tell her that if she wants, you will arrange weekly play dates for her. If she agrees, do so until she feels comfy enough to call and arrange them herself.
Family psychologist John Rosemond answers parents’ questions on his web site at www.rosemond.com.