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March 8, 2013

Party could lead to temptation

NORMAN — Q: In our city, most of the high school seniors participate in “Senior Beach Week” during spring break. They rent beach houses and condos and party like there’s no tomorrow. Alcohol, marijuana and sex abound. Our friends justify allowing their kids to go by saying they have to be trusted sometime. In truth, we all have good kids who have never given us any trouble. They just want to go and be part of the scene. Our nephew’s parents, however, refuse to let him go. They say it’s irresponsible even if the child in question has been trustworthy to this point. We are wavering back and forth on letting our 17-year-old son attend. He assures us he won’t get into trouble. What are your thoughts?

A: My immediate thought is that it requires a serious lapse of common sense for a person to play with an explosive device, even if it has a safety and it’s never gone off. In other words, the fact that a youngster has been trouble-free and trustworthy to date is no guarantee that he will not spontaneously combust if put in the wrong situation. It’s not a matter of trust; it’s a matter of understanding that all teens are impressionable (some more than others) and want to be accepted by their peers. It would be one thing if these kids were all members of a church youth group going on a mission trip to a third-world country. It’s quite another when the destination is the modern equivalent of Gomorrah.

I strongly suspect that parents who justify allowing their kids to attend this weeklong bacchanalia by saying “Well, you gotta trust ‘em sometime,” are really afraid to incur the negative emotional reaction that is bound to happen if they say no. They want to be liked by their kids, so they let them do things that strain common sense. Your nephew’s parents are to be commended for standing their ground. Certainly the talk will be that they’re overprotective and controlling and so on. That’s just more justification on the part of parents who desperately need to rationalize making a really bad decision.

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