The Norman Transcript


June 14, 2013

Pater familias



As has been mentioned in past columns, our parents were European, meaning they were strict. They had rules and any failure on our part to follow such rules had consequences. And our father, who dwelt in an ivory tower, tended to be a bit on the dictatorial side.

Of course, no one ever expected the relationship between parents and children to be a democracy. That foolish notion made parenting even more difficult because of the intervention of groups who are barely capable of handling their own business.

Hubby’s father worked incredibly hard and yet made time for his children and grandchildren. Consequently, both generations have wonderful memories of fishing, talking and spending time with Dad/Papa.

Since so many things in life are learned by example, Hubby also id a great father and grandfather. Just like his Dad, he gives of his time and attention to our children and grandchildren, rather than just material and impersonal stuff. And he, too, works hard to provide a loving and stable home for his family.

Folks in today’s society seem to have lost respect for parents, persons of authority and each other. It is troubling and wrong to see fathers portrayed as bumbling fools in movies and on television. No wonder respect is lacking in our egocentric world where the end all and be all is the self-stroking and nearsighted “I.”

Granted, some fathers merely provide a microscopic drop toward the creation of new life and some end up in the news, giving the world a bad impression of fathers in general.

What about the good fathers, who quietly do their duty, earning a living, spend time with the children and support their wives in raising the children in a loving home? They are the underappreciated and unsung heroes of every generation.

To all the great fathers who rarely make the news, but are firmly enshrined in our hearts, Happy Father’s Day!

Elizabeth is a freelance writer and author. Her novels: “The Dionysus Connection” and “The Marathon Man” written as Liz Cowan are available on Visit her website:

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