NORMAN — Q: My son is a sophomore who plays for his high school’s varsity football team. He’s friends with a lot of older kids, and he’s really upset about not being able to go to the prom. I don’t really have a good explanation for him. Do you two know why all high school students can’t go?
— Sheila, of Moore
Since you said you were from Moore, our assumption is that your son attends one of the three high schools there. Plus or minus a few kids, each school averages a total enrollment of 2,000 students. That’s a lot of people in one place.
Not too many venues are equipped to handle those kinds of numbers. Granted, not every student would go, but you also have some who bring dates from outside that school’s population. It’s difficult to get enough parents at times to help with certain functions.
Another reason, which none of us may have understood until we got older, is the mere fact that kids need something to look forward to doing. If they get to do everything as a freshman, by the time they are seniors, nothing is meaningful. They get bored and want more.
It’s also called the junior-senior prom. These classes are the ones who work on fundraising, spend hours planning and try to make it special for those graduating.
Short of a junior or senior girl asking him to attend, tell your son to have patience. He’ll have two years in which he can enjoy it and make great memories.
Q: My 16-year-old son doesn’t get along with my second husband. He thinks his stepdad is mean to him. When I try to intercede, my son accuses me of taking my husband’s side, and my husband says I’m too lenient with my son. Recently, I found a search on my son’s computer about being emancipated. I’m terrified. Can he really do this