The attempt on your part to entertain and make things fun may be part of the problem. Without intention, your “entertainments” may be exciting him and stimulating his activity level.
You may believe, as do many of today’s moms, that you should be constantly talking to your child to promote “bonding” as well as proper language development. There’s a grain of truth in that, but it’s not much more than a grain. When mothers didn’t have lots of time to devote to their children, children still learned how to talk and talk well.
If all you did was sing one of your favorite songs while you’re changing your son, for example, that’s language stimulation enough. In other words, you don’t have to be talking directly at your son for him to develop good language skills.
And when you do talk to him, your tone does not have to be upbeat and “entertaining.” It can be very matter-of-factt. You do not have to make everything seem fun. You said you were getting weary, and a lot of effusive child-centeredness may well be the reason why.
Fifty-plus years ago, before robotic vacuum cleaners, programmable washing machines and microwave ovens, mothers didn’t have time to pay lots of attention to their kids. They paid enough. And when they did pay attention, they didn’t act like cruise ship recreation directors. And their kids seemed to have turned out reasonably well.
Family psychologist John Rosemond answers parents’ questions on his website at www.rosemond.com.