NORMAN — Q: I just attended parent/teacher conferences at my son’s school. He is a second-grader and, although he makes good grades and his work is on time and done well, the teacher told me he can’t stay in his seat.
I’m not a fan of medicating my young son, but I think his teacher was hinting that he might need it. What are your thoughts?
— Robert, Oklahoma City
Thank you for attending parent/teacher conferences. We appreciate parents who take time to visit with teachers.
Over the years, we have dealt with many students who are medicated for hyperactivity and many who probably should have been medicated. This is a serious decision that requires testing and involvement with your son’s physician.
In children as young as your son, often times hyperactive students aren’t doing well in class, not only because they aren’t able to sit still but also because they aren’t able to concentrate long enough to finish an assignment or listen to full instructions or follow all directions.
Since your son is finishing his assignments and his grades are good, he may be one of the behavior problems that is seen in education that results from boredom. When these kids act up in class, it’s because they have finished their work and are simply looking for something else to do.
Some suggestions might be asking the teacher if he/she needs help with certain tasks in the classroom, he might be allowed to bring a book to read once work is completed or teachers have enrichment activities that reinforce the lesson being taught. You should probably have another conversation with the teacher to find out what he/ she has to offer.
You also need to have a serious conversation with your son about his responsibilities while in the classroom. Explain to him that not only is he upsetting the teacher but he also is bothering and/or disrupting the other students in the class. If it comes down to him not minding, consequences should be assigned and enforced both in class and at home.
Q: We are a busy family and our children’s homework seems to be put off due to a lack of time in the evenings. My daughter tells us that her teacher doesn’t assign a grade to homework, even though they go over it. Do teachers not understand that kids have a life outside of school?
— Jami and Brad, Norman
Dear Jami and Brad,
You didn’t mention why you were so busy in the evenings, so we are wondering if it’s perhaps related to athletic practice, dance/cheer practice, music practice or something like this.
What your family seems to not understand is that homework is practice for the lesson taught that day. Could there be a more important practice than your child’s education?
If they don’t make it as a professional dancer or sports figure, they will have their education to use their entire lives. As far as grading homework goes, that would be a question for the individual teacher.
Send all questions to questions.classact@gmail.
com. Jeannie and Sally are certified school counselors with more than 50 years of combined experience. The responses presented don’t reflect the views of any certain school district.