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Q: I drive a carpool of about four kids. There is one who smells so badly, I can hardly stand for him to get in my car. What’s the best way to deal with this?
— Name withheld by request
A: This is one of the hardest issues as a counselor that we have to address. We try to use privacy and sensitivity. Since you didn’t tell us what age this student is, you can either choose to talk to the parent or the child. If you don’t feel comfortable doing either of those, then you can ask the school nurse to visit with the student.
Sometimes the school counselor may have some resources for some personal hygiene items. If you are aware of it, so are others around him. You are doing him a favor by trying to intervene.
A few pointers: please don’t say anything to him in front of others or talk to others about him. It is a very embarrassing situation, and you need to let him know you’re doing this because you care about him. Please remember to use kind words and offer some solutions and not just criticism.
Sally and Jeannie are certified school counselors with 49 years combined educational experience. Jeannie has two children, Sally three. The responses presented don’t necessarily represent the views of any certain school district. Please send questions to email@example.com.