You just have to do what feels right, because your child will let you know if they feel comfortable or not. It’s difficult enough on all of us to lose people close to us, but it’s especially difficult when children don’t understand.
What we do urge parents or family members to do is to let someone in the school know when your family has been affected by death … a favorite teacher, counselor, coach … someone with whom the child feels a bond. We’ve seen it happen over and over where a kid will have a breakdown of sorts at school, and no one knows what’s going on or how to help.
Jeannie and Sally are certified school counselors with 49 years combined educational experience. Jeannie has two children, Sally three. The responses presented don’t necessarily represent the views of any certain school district. Please send questions to email@example.com.