NORMAN — Q: My son is a ninth grader this year. He has chosen electives because those are the electives his friends have chosen. My wife and I feel like he should be in other classes and it has become a battle at our house. What is your opinion?
Steve — OKC
A: As we have said before, electives are the perfect avenue to explore options that may never be available again. I completley agree with Jeannie that he is the one sitting in class doing the work and I am a huge proponent of taking classes that interest you.
I do, however, feel that there is a time for a parent to step in while you still have some say so. As a student I was scared to death to get up in front of people and speak. Had I taken a speech class it would have been a huge benefit to me later in life. Jeannie can attest to a time in my career when I had to speak in a huge auditorium and me knees were visibly shaking!
What about art? I hear so many student say they can’t take art because they can’t draw. DUH! That is like saying you can’t take algebra because you don’t know how to do the problems.
We also have kids who won’t take an elective because they don’t know what it is. Find out! Teachers love to talk about their subjects! Ask them! Perhaps a happy medium can be reached in the future where you both have input. High school is the time to take these classes because in college he will be paying for them!
Q: We are a very close family and my ninth-grade son has recently not been himself. I do not know the first signs of drug abuse but I am afraid that is what I am seeing. Can you tell me what to look for?