The Norman Transcript

August 30, 2013

Safety is a priority


The Norman Transcript

NORMAN — Over the summer, we have received several emails from parents regarding the safety of the school buildings which their children will be attending. A lot of students have voiced concerns about returning to school and not feeling safe, but we saw so many educators risk life and limb to protect their students on May 20.

We completely understand the apprehension of everyone — students and school staff. We suggest you reassure your children that their teachers will do everything in their power to keep them safe.

In addition, please tell your children to pay close attention to the instructions given during the numerous drills conducted throughout the school year. Paying attention during these drills will help keep everyone safer. Although tragedies occurred in May, it could have been so much worse, and we are thankful kids were not home alone during this very scary time.

Q: Recently, I have noticed that my daughter seems to be begging for praise. This is something new, and no matter how many times I tell her she’s pretty or looks great, she tells me I have to say these things since I’m her mother. Her dad and I are divorced and don’t really get along, so what else can I do to reassure her?

— Martha

A: We understand exes don’t always get along — otherwise you’d still be married. We hope as difficult as it may be, maturity will prevail for the best interests of the child(ren). It is unforgiveable to put a child in the middle of divorced parents. We have seen too many negative effects in children who have been placed in this unfair position.

We would first ask you to try to communicate with your daughter’s father only about her and what is best for her. As single moms, we know this isn’t always possible. You are doing the right thing in giving her positive reassurance. Even though she may say it doesn’t mean much, we all realize it does.

Secondly, all kids look for something, whether it is acceptance from other kids, praise from parents and/or teachers or a sense of belonging and acceptance in a group. We know of many girls who did not get appropriate positive feedback from their fathers and looked for it in other males.

Fathers should give their daughters attention and compliments as well as spending quality time with them. During these years, remember to continue to meet friends’ parents and be involved in her life. Just know we feel your pain, but keep up the good work.

Please send questions to questions.classact@gmail.

com. Sally and Jeannie are certified school counselors with more than 50 years combined educational experience. The responses presented don’t reflect the views of any certain school district.